Sascha's Secret Love Letter #10 Copy 2
Quotes From The Heart
“If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?”
— RuPaul
Pop wisdom with teeth. Self-love isn’t spa-day fluff; it’s standards, self-respect, and clean boundaries. When you treat yourself well, you stop auditioning and start choosing. Then partnership becomes a complement, not a crutch.
Try this: Write one boundary that protects your peace, then practice saying it once.
This Week In Love
4 In 10 Adults 45+ Feel Lonely
A new AARP report shows loneliness rising among Americans 45+, now at about 40%. Relationships help, but no single relationship can carry everything. Build “social fitness” like cardio: small, regular reps. Coach tip: lock a standing ritual (weekly walk-and-talk, hobby night, or Sunday call) and protect it like a meeting. Correlational data, not destiny but a nudge to design connection.
Read the full article here
Question for you: What recurring, low-effort touchpoint could you schedule this week?
Media Magic
Attract Love Without Chasing
If we were debriefing over tea, I’d ask you to check the engine under your dating choices. Are you moving from hunger or from wholeness? When I show up as if love is already part of my life, I stop auditioning and start choosing. Get precise about the feeling you are calling in, not the resume you hope to meet. Then mirror it. If I want steadiness, I practice steadiness. If I want honesty, I tell the simple truth. You draw in what you consistently embody. Alignment beats effort.
Try this now: write a one line description of your relationship’s emotional home, for example calm and playful. Name one habit that clashes with it and one small behavior you will practice this week that matches it.
Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/T9V
Curious Questions
This week's curiosity poll...
What is your favorite cozy winter date idea?
A) Homemade pasta night 🍝
B) Board games + cocoa ♟️
C) Bookstore browse + coffee 📚
D) Night walk, stargazing 🌟
Share your response at support@haert2heart.com - all responses remain anonymous :)
Your Secret Invitation
The other morning, I pulled a slim book off my shelf while the kettle warmed and the city was still quiet. Ikigai: The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life. As I reread, it landed again on how the Japanese do not chase happiness. They cultivate meaning through daily alignment. Small meals that honor the body, unhurried movement, friendships tended like gardens, work that serves and sustains. No grand reinvention. Tiny rituals that turn ordinary minutes into something sacred. It reminded me that purpose is not a finish line. It is a way of moving through a day that already belongs to you.
Reflection: What small ritual could reconnect you to purpose today?
You can watch this short piece I’m sharing here on YouTube and let it spark your own practice.
Until next week :)